Joe wrote about an eighty-year-old woman he met who was so desperately lonely that she cried when he hugged her.
I am not a nice man, so let me note that she did this to herself. Her husband died in Nam and she never remarried. St. Paul would certainly approve and most people consider this very romantic, My One True Love and all.
But if you are going to be Idealistic and Romantic, you have to live with it.
There are MILLIONS of lonely unfulfilled women today who were big on the omens Lib Movement in he 1970s. THe motto of Womens Lib was, “It is as important for a woman to paint picture as to have a baby.”
Well, they got their picture now.
The Church has forced many a woman to live her entire life alone because she married a man who ran away. There was only One Sacred Unbreakable Bond of Marriage, and if that requires women to live and die alone, that just shows how idealistic it is.
If I had a straight choice between being having the agony a Mafia Don caused for others or the agony a Woemn’s Lib leader caused, I would not hesitate to the Mafia man. But none of this bothers the Mafia Don or the women’s libber one little bit.
If I had the choice of being the priest who forced a woman to live our her youth and her age in loneliness or an outright murderer, I would be the murderer.
Both of our last Democratic presidents, like Gautama Buddha, had one obligatory child so they could claim to be parents.
To my mind, one should either have two or more children or none. I have seen too many people who had one child who died. They took on all the emotional baggage of being a parent, and the slender thread broke.
They don’t get over it.
My feeling is, from knowing these people, that one should either be a parent or not.
If you are the sort of person who needs marriage, then be married and if your partner dies, marry again.
Take it from one who has fought for causes all his life. Being an idealist, doing things for others, these things carry a price. These are not games for children or men who run around in dresses and don’t get married or ugly women who want to make it political.
Don’t run around being Otheworldy and then get upset when the world makes you pay for it.
#1 by lemon on 11/16/2005 - 2:48 pm
I have also seem some families that had two children and lost one. The remanining one takes on a huge load trying to deal with the parents grief by themselves. Shari