Only BUGSERS can feel what I went through all those years being totally alone with the Mantra.
You can also understand what a joy it is to me to have others doing Mantra Thinking.
To put yourself back into my miserable, lone years, all you need do is force yourself to try to READ all those pages of standard anti-white comments that followed the SPLC article about us and WR.
There is a problem with your writing interesting stuff, and that is that I READ it. I will suddenly come up with a criticism, and, worst of all, a totally wrong and out of context criticism.
I take our discussion very seriously, and when I criticize you wrongly, you have a license to set me right, and you don’t have to do it gently. But please, don’t be so upset about it!
It is easy to take a stupid remark by Coach as a stab in the back.
IT IS NEVER THAT!
Under all these spiritual calluses, I am a very sensitive person. In fact, one of the psychiatric diagnoses made when I got disability was very interesting. It is interesting because, yes, Virginia, there is such a thing as being too opposite to a psychopath.
I have that malady and it is called “overly offensive concerns.” Opposite from a psychopath, a person with “overly offensive concerns”, as the term suggests, feels too much of what the psychopath does not feel at all. I doubt that I am the only person in BUGS who has this problem.
Also please remember that however I unintentionally offend you, there is only one coach, and if you get only offense from what I say, you are missing a chance to listen while I’m still here.
If my senility or my lack of fiber make me offend you, try to just point it out and see if there’s something else in what I said that is more important.
#1 by Wm White on 08/06/2013 - 5:11 pm
Hey Bob,
Thanks for being human and ‘not’ acting like a demigod or cult leader (but as a coach with foibles). There are few who can walk in your shoes and we all appreciate you for who you are and what you have done (and are doing) for our people. That’s why we are here.
with great appreciation,
William
#2 by Asgardian117 on 08/06/2013 - 7:20 pm
“Also please remember that however I unintentionally offend you, there is only one coach, and if you get only offense from what I say, you are missing a chance to listen while I’m still here.”
You cant leave coach, we arent done yet.
You are the best man ive never met….where were you when I was10 years old?
Do not feel bad as much as criticism from you can sting it is nothing compared to the experiences im sure most of us have gotten from anti whites…only reason yours hurts is because you mean so much to us.
#3 by Asgardian117 on 08/06/2013 - 7:22 pm
Dont let up now coach we didnt get this way by you handing out 1st place ribbons to all of us.
#4 by Jason on 08/06/2013 - 9:00 pm
Understood and feel free to fire away with criticism! We need to have that understanding around here. It’s not done out of ill will, quite the opposite.
I’ve had this problem of “over concern” too. The nicest people in the world honestly don’t give a damn about you.
#5 by shari on 08/06/2013 - 9:32 pm
That’s the truth. Nice doesn’t nessessarily mean anything. Thank you so much for what I have been able to learn here.
#6 by OldBlighty on 08/06/2013 - 10:11 pm
Sounds like Bob is about to throw a chair.
#7 by Harumphty Dumpty on 08/07/2013 - 2:19 am
“An Apology in Advance”
Apology accepted, Coach…lol! 🙂
I think we all get along here pretty good, considering who some of us here are, like myself. And the reason of course is that we’re bonded by our common purpose. And also, the respect and feeling we share for our coach.
I hope I haven’t bummed anyone out here permanently. I’ve lost friends in “real life” because of my temper.
“Also please remember that however I unintentionally offend you…”
I get easily offended, but a hearty breakfast and a little bit of satisfying drama usually sets me right.
“Only BUGSERS can feel what I went through all those years being totally alone with the Mantra.”
That comes to my mind a lot. I talked to a guy at the first seminar who had recently gotten totally into the Mantra but who had evidently known you for a long time, and he was marveling that during all the time he’d known you he hadn’t had a clue. He said, shaking his head, “I used to drive Bob Whitaker around…” Ha! Funny and poignant. I pictured you sitting on the car seat beside him, being congenial and wondering if he would ever ever get it.
Well, we’re rocking now.
I do need to think more than I do about what’s in these blogs though. I do discuss a lot of it with other bugsters.
#8 by Bob on 08/07/2013 - 10:05 am
Your discussing things with each other is VERY important to me.
Remember, the whole rest of the world is babbling most about what matters least.
Your discussion is CRITICAL.
#9 by Sentinel on 08/07/2013 - 6:44 pm
Don’t feel bad, Bob… We apologize in advance for dumping a celebratory cooler full of frigid Gatorade on you. 🙂
#10 by Gavin on 08/09/2013 - 12:08 pm
“I have that malady and it is called “overly offensive concerns.” Opposite from a psychopath, a person with “overly offensive concerns”, as the term suggests, feels too much of what the psychopath does not feel at all. I doubt that I am the only person in BUGS who has this problem.”
You are not. I still have a lump in my stomach that has been there for six months because of something I did trying to help one set of people but harming another set in the process and indirectly harming another set as well. It’s basically because of this that I have not been as active in BUGS as I have been before.
I just really screwed things up in a way that almost no one in the world can even understand. I honestly don’t think I will ever be able to get over it, that’s not being dramatic…it’s an honest assessment. I can’t talk to anyone about it because no one even understands. I feel lonely.
#11 by Harumphty Dumpty on 08/09/2013 - 1:11 pm
Gavin, first of all, it was an absolute thrill to see your name in my email box as having posted at BUGS again. Of all the people here, I believe you were the one who was the most helpful to me in my finally understanding the basic “simple” reversal trick in replying to anti-whites.
I’m sorry for your grief over the consequences of an action you took. All of us with some years have those things to feel bad about, and some of us have had the bad luck that some of our actions have led to worse consequences than we ever could have imagined.
I often think of leaders who sincerely have cared for their people, but however good their judgment inevitably have done harm along with the good. The more active you are in the world, the more harm you will inevitably do along with the more good. My two cents anyway.
Grieve, but feel compassion for yourself as well. We also all have to learn to at least some possible degree the limitations on our own judgment, unfortunately often at cost to others.
I wish you and I were friends, because I’d be extremely surprised if I looked at whatever happened in quite the same way you do, however bad the consequences.
Hang in there, take care of yourself, and let the right to live as fully as you’re able to flow back into yourself.
And selfishly, I’ll mention that this is probably a time when your skill at Mantra use is needed here for some of the newcomers, if you’re in shape for that. You’re better at it than I am for sure, and I’m very busy with “petition” stuff, and some others here are busy with stuff too.
Best wishes to you!