B. U. G. S.

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What gets lost in how people currently associate with one another as exemplified by Date Carnegie’s HWFIP advice is what happened to us once we become an urban (versus rural) society.

Remember, Dale Carnegie was advising a newly urbanized people (folks freshly off the farm) on how to successfully navigate (diplomacy and etiquette wise) urban society, a society where you are constantly interacting with strangers from differing backgrounds and origins.

It has completely been forgotten that rural America was a sharing society, like all rural societies. Everyone in the rural situation shared the same burdens, knew one another, and took care of one another; consequently, if you were down on your luck, you went to live with your neighbor.

This was about a shared interest in surviving.

No such thing exists in the urban situation. Accordingly, skills in etiquette and diplomacy become paramount, furnishing a window for sociopaths to thrive.

It is ironic that the most moral struggle with etiquette and diplomacy, where it is no problem for the sociopath. That is because for truly aware people, etiquette and diplomacy are the world’s trickiest subjects.

There could never be a successful curriculum in etiquette and diplomacy, nor can it be learned from books or essays. Etiquette and diplomacy are deeply bound to issues of personal moral character, as there is a time to forbear and a time to be rude.

Sociopaths are entirely given to being clever and using others, therefore they never really understand etiquette and diplomacy, subjects no different than strategy and tactics in war and conflict. Persons of low moral character can’t do either successfully, yet they regularly fool others into believing they can.

BW is a man high moral character; his work contributes to important issues of etiquette and diplomacy. That is why BW is upfront about the issues of etiquette and diplomacy in running this blog.

It isn’t easy.

But is it to be expected that a man like BW, whose real orientation is to advise on political conflict, would also be deeply aware and burdened by issues of etiquette and diplomacy.